“Calling all Facebook trolls! Hey – I’m maxed out on friends! If you are just being nosy, critical or just a troll stalking me – please Unfriend me! There are 33 people waiting to connect. All trolls follow me after Unfriending or switch to my fan page…” – Wayne Elsey
That was a message I posted last month on my personal Facebook account.
Here’s the deal. I don’t like trolls. I’m sure you don’t either, but I will never be afraid to confront them.
Between trolls, terrorists, constant negative “news” stories and the latest outrage, it’s a wonder any of us manage to get up every morning.
I have my fair share of critics and trolls. If you’re doing anything in public or social media these days, more than likely you’ve had to deal with it yourself. Trolls, in particular, want to shut us up and have us hide in fear.
Listen up: It’s. Not. Going. To. Happen.
I don’t believe we live in a world where we should be afraid to do anything, especially express our opinions for fear of critics or trolls. It’s very easy to hide behind a computer or mobile screen and spew venom. My thought for people who spend their days behind a keyboard clacking away and spreading poison is that they need to get a life. I always imagine the loudest trolls hide somewhere in some dark room and get their kicks harassing people. Imagine what kind of person you need to be to have that as your goal in life.
People are dying every hour of the day. Children are impoverished. The world is in crisis and people are suffering. Yet, trolls choose to spend their days making other people miserable. Again, it’s not going to happen.
I have critics. We all do. Not everyone is going to love us or agree with our approach or thinking on things. That’s okay. So long as critics have legitimate critiques and are trying to do something in their lives with good intentions, I don’t have a problem with that. They can disagree with me all they want. I respect them because I like to debate ideas. I don’t mind being challenged on my thinking.
But, here’s what’s not acceptable: trolling for no other purpose than to make people miserable. What’s the point and social good in that? Do trolls hold themselves in such little regard?
If and when you experience critics, engage them. If they are challenging your thinking on the merits, there’s nothing wrong that. We all need to grow and we should be open to ideas other than our own.
But, when criticisms get personal and there is no good intent there, back off. None of us have to deal with cowards. None of us have time to give oxygen to people who have nothing better to do with their lives.
Life is too precious and there’s too much to do to waste it on trolls.
Wayne is the author of “Get Off the Couch: Grip & Rip and Break the Barriers Holding You Back in Life” (Free Digital Download)
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