Life is not easy. In fact, sometimes it can be downright cruel. But, despite whatever happens or we make happen to us, it’s still something I would do over again if I could. I would do every bit of it again.

Would you?

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned in my own life is that a lot of it has to do with your attitude. Yes, it’s hard to have a cheerful attitude when you’re suffering or going through a tough time. And, no, happy thinking will not make tough things in life disappear into a haze from your life. But, the fact does remain that your attitude helps define how you will overcome life’s challenges.

Having the right attitude in life, no matter the circumstance, can make all the difference in the world. So, if you’re going through a period in your life of reflection and re-evaluation, perhaps one of the places to begin having a winning attitude is to get in touch with what you want for yourself and your life.

Here are some questions to help you get started, and remember, there are no right or wrong answers. Note, some of these questions have logical follow-ups, but you can follow other lines of thought. The only thing in answering these questions is to be true to yourself.


  1. What made you happy as a kid, before you had all of the responsibilities?


  1. What do you cherish and value in your life?


  1. Which is worse, failing or never trying?


  1. Who are the people and what are the things you cherish most in your life and why?


  1. Do you worry more about doing things right or doing the right thing?


  1. Do you live an authentic life? In other words, do you live the life being true to yourself? Why or why not?


  1. What is one thing you have not yet done but want to do in your life? When are you doing it?


  1. What are you pretending not to know in your life to make it easier?


  1. What would help you have a joyful life, not simply a happy life?


  1. What are deal breakers in your life? Who or what must always be a part of your life?


  1. If you could live the life you wanted to live today, whose support would you need?


  1. What advice would you give yourself 3, 5, 10 years ago? What advice would you give your younger self?


  1. Where do you see your life 3, 5 and 10 years from now and how do you get there from here?


  1. If you had all the money in the world, how would you spend it?


  1. What kind of spouse, friend, parent or child have you been?


  1. Do you feel that you make your own decisions or that you are living your life for others? Why are you letting that happen to you?


  1. What was your biggest “failure” that ultimately changed the course of your life for the better?


  1. What is the one toughest challenges you’ve ever faced and how did you overcome it? What were the lessons you learned that can apply to any similar challenge in your current life?


  1. When was the last time you were at your happiest? Who was with you?


  1. If you were given less than a year to live, what would you do with your remaining days? Who would you spend it with?


  1. Knowing that you will die, how do you choose to live?


  1. What do you have to lose if you chase your dream?


  1. What is one thing you would like to change in your life and what are the daily habits you can do to make it happen?


  1. What is your biggest fear in life?


  1. What do you think you are on this earth to accomplish and do and are you doing it?




Wayne is the author of “Get Off the Couch: Grip & Rip and Break the Barriers Holding You Back in Life” (Free Digital Download)


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